June 1st, 2013 I was co-hosting a baby shower for a friend when another friend approached me and asked if Pace and I were open to doing a private infant adoption. My first reaction was "no". My wounds from our last failed match hadn't healed yet and I wasn't sure I could go through all of that again. After a few minutes, I told my friend that I would talk to Pace and get back to her. This started our journey towards adopting twins and was the cause for the creation of this blog.
I felt the need to journal my thoughts during this time. I wanted a place I could write messages to the babies, I wanted a place to track our thoughts and the processes during this time. I don't want to forget any of it - I want to be able to have as thorough a story as possible to tell the babies when they are old enough.
For right now details in regards to the birth mom will be limited and a pseudo name will be used for her. Although we are planning a completely open adoption, I want to protect her and her privacy right now.
July 13th, we scheduled a meeting with "Eliza" and her son and immediately hit it off. She lives in AZ in a town that we love to vacation in, so it worked out quite well. We visited during lunch and then left leaving the invitation open to meet up with her again for dinner or breakfast the next morning. She sent me a series of text messages shortly thereafter letting me know that she had decided to proceed with Pace and I and that she had chosen us to adopt her twin babies.
Obviously my emotions were all over the place. She was only 14 weeks along, we had a long way to go, I tried not to get my hopes up, tried to remain calm, but none of that worked.
We met up with Eliza, her son and her little sister that evening for dinner. We were staying with friends of ours, so she came over to where we were staying, we grilled, visited and started planning the big extended family we were creating. We visited until about 9:30 pm when they headed off to put her son to sleep and the most amazing journey of my life began.
She and I talk, text, message etc. every day. She is currently 17 weeks and 2 days pregnant with fraternal twins. We do not know the sex of the babies yet and won't until August 26th of next month.
She is going to come to our house and stay for the weekend next weekend and I am so excited to show her where we live, to go swimming and shopping with her. I am amazed by her strength, saddened by her pain and forever in awe at her selflessness.
Friends and supporters - please keep Eliza in your thoughts. She is going through so much right now and any positive thoughts you could send her way would mean so much to me!
Dear Babies: "Although we have yet to meet, I promise to love you unconditionally, to celebrate your gifts, and to nurture your character and spirit. I offer these words that you might glimpse a world that was showered with love, commitment, and anticipation long before you arrived as a miracle in my life."
I love it! Thanks so much for sharing!
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